Sh*t we do for Love

From Milly Martyr to Sacred, Fearless and Wild

What’s the heroine’s journey and will you answer the call when it comes?
 
Michelle Harpas is an Internationally Certified Life Transformation and Spiritual Empowerment coach and sacred circles facilitator on a mission to help people see what life could be like if you were a little less obedient, a little less scared and a little less perfect. 
 
Through the powerful journey of ‘Sacred Fearless Rewilding’ she empowers her clients to break the box that they’re in, rediscover who they truly are, what they really want, and explore ways to get them there that are inspiring, exciting, expansive and feel right. She aims to help them courageously take their rightful place in the world – for the highest good of themselves and of all.
 
We get deep into:
The message anger is carrying
The danger of bypassing your needs and rationalising others bad behaviour
A feminine approach to integration work 
 
It’s time to untame yourself and rediscover your sacred, wild and feminine side.
 
Catch up with Michelle here:
Website: www.michelleharpas.com
Instagram: @michelleharpas

you don’t need to earn a rest

What do furniture, circuit boards and bargains have in common?
 
STRESS.
 
This week I delve into one of my favourite subjects to explain:
 
Why we get overloaded - even when we’re having fun
Simple, short anti-stress habits (none of them is meditation)
The mindset we need to be wary of because it causes us to melt down
Email me and tell me your biggest take away from this and what you’re going to try wendy@wendywindle.com I genuinely love to read your emails.

Is being a good girl destroying your marriage?

D-I-V-O-R-C-E
 
How do you get a divorce that isn’t a disaster? Or how can you avoid one by asking for what you want? That’s the topic I dig into with Sally Anne Hartnel
 
Sallyanne is your Divorce Wing Woman - the woman you don't want to need. 
 
As a Relationship & Divorce Coach, she helps clients decide whether to stay or leave a relationship, navigate divorce with less drama, reclaim & liberate themselves whatever they decide & choose the life, love & relationship they truly desire. 
 
Join us as we grapple with the questions we hope we never have to answer:
 
Is an amicable divorce even a thing?
Can you turn a relationship around once the D word has been mentioned?
How to tell if you can save your marriage
Why is it so hard to say what we need in relationships?
What the hell is a healthy fight and how to have one
Could your constant effort to please your partner actually be eroding the relationship?
 
This is a juicy conversation that has so many tips to build a better relationship, or get out of one that’s run its course.
 
Ready for some hard conversations? They might just save your marriage.
You can find Sallyanne at:
www.reflectcoaching.com.au 
 
Want to know how to have hard conversations?Grab the free guide here:
https://www.reflectcoaching.com.au/having-hard-conversations

Do you dim to fit in?

Do you ever find yourself holding back a little on the real, full YOU experience because you don’t think you’re acceptable? 
 
In this solo episode I share with you a simple but profound way to stop having to dim your own light so you don’t blind others.
 
This is the episode I wish I could send back in time to my eleven year old self.
 
Come and join me in The Love Your Bloody Self Club. Self love is a practice best done together. wendywindle.com/loveclub

Fitting in, otherness and empowerment

We are pack animals and we signify to each other who we belong to and who we don’t. It can be as simple as Not being able to wear Hi Tec trainers at school because the cool kids wear Nike.
 
But what if you don't fit in because of the colour of your skin? What if the parts of your identity make you unable to fit in? What if the only box you can tick on a form is “Other”?
 
Arissan Nicole gives us her point of view on trying to fit in when no one thinks you belong to where you’re from. We discuss:
 
What are microaggressions and how do they affect people?
The extra load on persons of colour to just be enough
What’s it like to look for validation when the answer is always no?
Why finding you confidence on the inside is the only lasting way to self love
The truth you probably don’t want to hear about a self love journey
Arissan shares how accepting her identity and talking about the things she feared the most paved her road to self love.
 
You can’t belong anywhere until you belong to yourself first. - Arissan Nicole
 
The episode is powerful. Arissan talks us through the key questions and exercises that helped her to confront the question: Who am I living my life for?
 
There is so much about this amazing human that we don’t even touch in this episode - like she’s a 4th degree black belt in Taekwondo! So I encourage you to connect and find out more about her - especially if you're stuck in a job you hate.
 
Email: arissan@arissannicole.com
Website: arissannicole.com
Instagram: @arissannicole

Permission to be you

Notes:
 
There’s a theory that back in our hunter gatherer days, it was more important for women to be secure in a group or we’d risk getting fed to a passing bear. Could this explain why we sometimes feel like we are waiting for permission to do the things we know we want to try?
 
If you’re held back by invisible forces or worried about what other people will think if you quit your job, date that person, or say no when the correct answer appears to be yes, Love, this is for you.
 
Discover:
 
Why we hold back waiting to see what others think first
The high cost you are paying for waiting for permission
The simple way to claim back your freedom

Find your Big Deal energy

You have a unique energy and vibe. You are a full expression of one particular flavour of human that can never be repeated - so why are we all trying so hard to blend in? I talked to a woman who couldn’t blend in if she tried and she has no intention of trying.
 
Christina Torres is a copywriter, messaging strategist and founder of Run And Tell That Dot Co
Through her 1-1 work, consulting, and hilarious online presence, she helps D2C product and service based brands embrace their Big Deal Energy, by turning the ~vibes~ that make them so magnetic into crazy compelling, customer-focused messaging strategy.  
 
Don’t have a business? This episode is still for you if you’ve ever wondered what life would be like if you have the balls to say no to things you don’t want to do.
 
It’s time to find your Big Deal energy.
 
The importance of protecting your energy and peace
The hangover of being raised in a “fit in” household and what Christina’s mum can teach us about saying no
The dark truth of people pleasing
How to separate your Big Deal energy from your output so you get to be a human
 
If you think self love will make you floppy and ineffective, come and get a dose of your own Big Deal energy.
 
Find Chrsitina Torres sitting in her big deal energy over at:
runandtellthat.co

How to love your body in a world that hates it

Maybe you don’t like your body because you’ve been trained not to. Maybe living in a world that has been obsessed with thin meaning worthy for over a hundred years has had some impact on how you feel inside your own skin. 
 
Loving your body no matter what shape it is takes some determination, compassion and “f&ck you mainstream media” energy. Let’s get into:
 
Why it’s ridiculous that our bodies aren’t allowed to change
The real reason diet culture exists
The mindset I use to make shopping about self love
 
Want to carry on this conversation? Come and join the Love Your Bloody Self Club sign up at wendywindle.com/loveclub

Are fat people allowed to love themselves yet?

The hard message about fat for hundreds of years in the west is that if you have it you're lazy, uneducated, slow, greedy, and attractive.
 
This messaging doesn’t just make fat women hate their bodies, it makes thin women hate microscopic parts of their bodies too.
 
What’s the cost of forever trying to be a shape we’ve been told is the only loveable shape to be?
 
My guest today is Andrea Westbrook, a size inclusion coach, who came ready to unpack our deeply held beliefs about our bodies - and our judgments about others’ bodies too.
 
We get into:
 
Why we believe what we believe about fat and fat people
The emotional and financial cost of carrying the weight of judgement
Why your body is nobody’s business
The not so convenient truths about why people are different shapes
 
If you’ve ever felt like you needed to slim down for an event, or squeeze into clothes that don’t fit, or see skinny people getting promoted past you at work, come and have a cuppa with us.
 
Andrea can be found spreading joy in the following places:
 
LI - https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-westbrook/
IG - https://www.instagram.com/andreawestbrookcoaching/
FB - https://www.facebook.com/andreawestbrookcoaching
Website - www.andreawestbrook.com.au

How “love and light” blind us from the truth

If you’ve ever been showered with useless platitudes when you’re going through some heavy sh*t, or felt like no one wanted to hear your story in case you “dragged them down” you’ve been spiritually bypassed. And that sucks.
 
In this sole episode I’ll lay out spiritual bypassing and how it’s taken hold in spiritual communities, the instagram love and light set and maybe even some of your well meaning friends.
Discover
 
The deep racism hiding in love and light
Why you should never argue with someone in spiritual bypass mode
How to cope with spiritual bypassing in ourselves and others
Don’t forget to head to wendywindle.com to get your free guide to building boundaries that get back time for you - because you’re probably spiritually bypassing how tired and thinly spread you actually are…
 
P.S.  I was going to call this episode, “How to be an enlightened good girl.” But was worried people might not get the joke.