Sh*t we do for Love
Sh*t we do for love, is for good girls who grew up to be people pleasers and are ready to stop putting yourself last for love. Humans are born hardwired to need love and connection. But by the time we’ve grown up most of us have a subconscious fear that we’re not really good enough to be loved. This podcast delves into the gap between what we need vs what we secretly think of ourselves and all the weird behavior we get into because of it - Like never really speaking your mind, endless procrastination, saying yes when you mean no, and suffocating your big dreams under a pile of laundry and paperwork. You’ll get self-love tips from a panel of experts that have nothing to do with bubble baths, cupcakes or glitter pens because you’re a grown woman and not 9 years old. Instead, we get into some useful stuff like how to say no, stand up for yourself, love your body (can you imagine), set firm boundaries, make money without feeling guilty, build a business or career that loves you back, and reduce mind crushing anxiety. Sh*t We Do for Love is brought to you by Wendy Windle, a certified life coach, meditation teacher and nosey parker. After decades of falling flat on her tits, making stupid mistakes and loving the wrong people, she’s figured out that self love is the only spiritual practice that counts. Now she helps her clients to build a life they love by being their own best friend.
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Episodes
Tuesday Apr 04, 2023
Tuesday Apr 04, 2023
One of the questions I get asked most by clients is, “How do I get in touch with my intuition?”
Sora Shilling, a sacred space holder, strategy alchemist, transformative business coach, and powerful medicine woman, sat down with me to get into the crevices of this question. We cover:
The hidden cost of looking up to people
How social masks keep us locked away from ourselves
Why difficult conversations are a sign of having great intuition
…and so much more. If you’re a spiritual bunny, or someone who wants to get to know themselves better, this episode is full of inspiration for your journey.
Sora can be found at: Devoted Energy Coaching School: https://www.devotedway.com/devoted-energy-coaching-school
Don’t forget to head wendywindle.com to get your free copy of 5 ways to build boundaries that get back time for you.
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Are you a sidekick in your own life?
If your day is designed around showing up for other people, you’re not the central character.
In this solo episode I’ll ask some probing questions to help you decide for yourself if you need to be recast as your own heroine.
As always, if you want extra support with this, find it at wendywindle.com/loveclub
Tuesday Mar 28, 2023
Tuesday Mar 28, 2023
Sometimes you hear a story that has so many other peoples’ life stories stamped into the fabric of it that it has to be shared. That’s my experience with Dr Cindy Childress, The Expert’s Ghostwriter. Cindy’s story of living her life to live up to someone else's expectations made me shiver with recognition, not only for myself, but because I get to speak to so many women who feel like they are not the main character in their own story.
Listen in as we share
The aimlessness that comes when we are working to please someone else, and they leave us
What happens to when good girls have no one to make proud
How to find your own mission in life
Artistic women and depression - how creativity can save us
How to seek your own approval first
What Cindy has to say about who gets to make the big decisions in her life now will inspire you to step up to main character status.
Check out all of Dr Cindy’s offers, including her quiz: Discover your Number 1 bestselling author personality at www.cindychildress.com
Want to have boundaries like Cindy’s grab your free guide: 5 Ways to build boundaries that get back time for you. Wendywindle.com
If you’re looking for support to be the heroine of your own life, I’ve got you. Head to wendywindle.com/loveclub to find out more.
Thursday Mar 23, 2023
Thursday Mar 23, 2023
A role model is someone who’s behaviour you want to imitate. As women, it feels like we already have enough role models shoved at us from every angle. The pressure to be the perfect partner, perfectly groomed - or perfectly tousled - perfectly carefree, or perfectly disciplined. You choose it, there’s a perfect version of it we’re meant to be.
But what if you could be your own role model?
What if that meant you know exactly how to organise your time and what to send your precious effort on?
In this solo episode, Wendy takes you through a short exercise to get in touch with your inner role model.
All role models need strong boundaries. Get your free guide to building boundaries that get back time for you HERE
Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Mums! Why are you feeling so bad about bringing people into the world?!
Being a woman is enough to cope with, but how many women in my life are coping with this extra layer of guilt, shame and pressure?
I’ve invited mum and mum-coach Leanne Sia into the pod to pummel her with questions and get us some answers.
Leanne Sia is an ex-corporate girl turned rock-star life coach/personal cheerleader, on a mission to help women to tell their inner critic to shut the f*ck up so that they can own their worth and live their best life.
Leanne has two degrees, is a qualified BYCA (Beautiful You Coaching Academy) coach and was a SHINE award finalist in 2021. She has 2 daughters, loves traveling, ugly shoes, decaf tea, houseplants, the colour yellow and firmly believes that tea tastes better in her favourite mug.
We get into:
The added mental load motherhood brings and how women aren’t coping with it.
The real cost of this mum guilt to mums and their children.
Those dark beliefs we have about ourselves that cause anxiety
Martyr Mum Vs Model Mum
This episode isn’t just for mums, we go into the thoughts that cause us to have low self esteem and how to flip the switch on them.
If you’ve been treating self care as a luxury you can’t afford, this episode is for you.
You can follow Leanne’s work on:
https://www.instagram.com/theleannesia
www.leannesia.com
Thursday Mar 16, 2023
Thursday Mar 16, 2023
Good girls are taught to stuff our anger all the way down into our white cotton socks and pretend we’re immune to such a nasty feeling.
But what if anger was an ally?
What if she came ready to fight for your rights, values and freedoms?
In this quickie episode, learn how to turn your anger into your bestie for life.
Feeling anger is a sign that someone is trying to take the mickie. That’s why getting comfortable with your boundaries is so helpful: once your boundaries are clear, people are less likely to cross them.
Have you downloaded your free guide yet?
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Emily Barclay started experiencing perimenopause symptoms at just 39, and, after over 3 years of trying to understand what was “wrong” she decided to bring together experts from around the world to help other women with the goal of ensuring nobody felt as lost as she had.
To that end, she launched perimenopausehub.com in 2019, along with its associated Facebook group, which now has over 57,000 members.
Emily lives in South Norfolk with her partner and their 5 dogs.
This episode uncovers so much Sh*t We Do for Love I can’t put it into one title:
Shut up and push through even though we’re exhausted
Suffer under the weight of being “Ladylike” when there’s nothing polite about perimenopause
Stuff our negative experiences down hoping they will go away
Emily and I bond over discovering how conditional our self love was before we literally couldn’t get off the sofa. Is your self worth dependent on your accomplishments? Perimenopause will bring you to a whole new level of self love.
Thursday Mar 09, 2023
Thursday Mar 09, 2023
Do you ever curse at yourself, “Why am I doing this AGAIN?! What is WRONG with me? Why can’t I just stick up for myself?!”
If so, there’s a high chance you’ve fallen into the good girl trap.
In this solo episode I’ll break down the programming in our minds that makes us act like we are dependent on the people around us for approval. The truth is, we can get all the love we need right here and now. We just have to be willing to cut the imaginary rope that ties us.
Discover:
How to stop people pleasing, perfectionism and procrastination
The 5 Pillars of Self Love that I’ve built a coaching practice - and my own life - on
The one thing I’ll never promise you - because it’s a big flat lie of the coaching industry
Don’t forget to get your copy of my free guide to Build Boundaries that get back time for you: www.wendywindle.com
To go deeper into the journey of coming to think that you’re actually a worthy, loveable human being, join me in The Love Your Bloody Self Club.
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
Learning to be okay with having wealth is a huge part of learning to love and accept our own needs and desires.
The Shit We Do for Love we tackle in this episode is our habit of forever putting off feeling good because we haven’t earned it yet.
We’ll lift the lid on the system that is designed for us to fail and feel bad, while promising us gold at the end of a rainbow that doesn’t exist.
We explore;
How the right attitude can put us in flow - meaning cash flow
The messages we received as children about money and a new way to think about it
Three easy steps to break the boom and bust cycle
What real wealth is and how to attract it
Don’t forget to grab your free guide to build boundaries that get back time for you, because time IS wealth.
Want more like this? Come and join us in The Love Your Bloody Self Club - the membership designed to walk you back home to your best self.
Wednesday Mar 01, 2023
Wednesday Mar 01, 2023
Tara Winters is an award winning life coach, soul guide, tarot reader, speaker, writer and mother of three children who believes that money is an energy that goes beyond numbers in the bank or physical notes and coins. What I love about Tara is that even though she’s a spiritual earth mama - she’s also a career accountant. This woman knows money.In this episode we explore:
Does how abundant we feel have to have anything to do with the numbers in our bank?
Is it possible to love money and not be an asshat?
What the hell is a money mindset and why should we care?
If money doesn’t buy happiness, what does?
The secret reason you’re working so hard.
The magic words that keep you in a flow state with money
We dig into the money blocks that keep us pushing away abundance even though we say we want it. This episode of Shit We Do for Love is all about why we are content to stay poor to be liked.